17 Simple Habits to Become More Likeable.

People who are good, kind, selfless, and hardworking for the welfare of others will be very deeply loved, very deeply respected wherever they go. It is a simple law of human nature that we love the highest. We want to be like such people, and we want to lead the kind of life they lead. ~Easwaran

I sometimes wonder from day to day how to be more like these people, the person that everyone is just drawn to the moment she walks into the door. They are like a ray of sunshine entering the room while others are like a gloomy cloud. I don’t know about you but I want to be like a light even if it’s just a little bitty ray to begin with. How do you know if you’re a cloud or ray of sunshine?

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How do you know if you’re a gloomy cloud?

  • Are you constantly thinking of yourself and what’s going on in your life?
  • Do you wait for others to come talk to you?
  • Do you complain about your life?
  • Do you constantly talk about yourself?
  • Are you judgmental and talk negatively of others?

50 Questions to Keep Your Conversations Going.

If you’re an introvert like me you might find it difficult to come up with what to say to keep a conversation going. My grandma always says certain people have the gift to gab. This is not an ability I possess. I always fall back on a few questions, ask them sincerely, and listen intently. We all want to make people feel good and one way to do this is to ask them questions.

Be Likeable. Ask Questions.

Plus it makes you more likeable and likeable people go much farther in life.  Here’s 50 to get you started.

20 Ways to Learn to Love

Ever wonder how some people seem to have it together when it comes to their relationships?  Not all of us grew up with a great example of what love should be. We may have seen bits and pieces of love in several different individuals but not the whole package.

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I grew up thinking love was grandiose and even went through a time when I thought it wasn’t worth investing in. I was burnt out on love. Then life changed. I changed. I was ready to learn to love. I was scared to death because I had built a huge brick wall around my heart which I had to knock down one brick at a time. I met my DeMarco, who I had an instant connection with. I thought I guess he’s worth trying out this whole love thing. At the same time I was learning about love from Easwaran’s books. He said, “Love is in the give-and-take of everyday relationships.” It’s about the little things in life.

The 5 Pillars of Wellbeing

1. Exercise. It’s not only for shaping and sculpting our bodies. Exercise betters how you think and feel about yourself, increases your ability to learn and retain information, decreases anxiety, guard against stress, reverses some effects of aging in the brain and can bring about more of a hormonal balance in women. Plus it’s a great investment. For every 1 hour of moderate exercise you get 2-5 hours of additional life. For every 1 hour of vigorous activity you get 5-11 hours added. Now that’s what I call a great deal. Getting more out of what you put in! Coming soon online SoulFit Training Workouts.

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The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It. (New York: Avery, 2012)

Ever wondered how some people have so much willpower? If you want to understand willpower and how you can apply simple tactics to build your own, then The Willpower Instinct is the book for you. I can’t speak highly enough of this book. Kelly begins by explaining the differences  between I will, I won’t, and I want, where these powers are located in the brain, and how each one can be strengthened like any other muscle. One of the secrets is “I want” power drives “I will” and “I won’t.” Kelly presents how to incorporate simple tactics to build your ultimate willpower arsenal. If you have a goal and your willpower is holding you back go ahead and start learning from the leading willpower expert.

Life is Your Best Medicine

Life is Your Best Medicine: A Woman’s Guide to Helath, Healing, and Wholeness at Every Age (Washington, D.C.: National Geographic, 2012)

Want to learn more about optimizing your health? Then Life is Your Best Medicine is the book for you. Dr. Low Dog provides practical tips and references for your to utilize in your every day life now. She is one of the most knowledgeable integrative medicine physicians in the country and I  cannot speak highly enough of her. The book divided into 3 basic parts:

1. Honoring your body where she discusses topics such as food, movement, vitamins, sleep, etc…

2. Awakening the senses through touch, sight, nature, smell, taste, gardening, hearing, and music.

3. Listening to the spirit via humor, relationships, words, forgiveness, animals, play, meditation, and resiliency.

This book is a must read and one you will reference back to often.