People who are good, kind, selfless, and hardworking for the welfare of others will be very deeply loved, very deeply respected wherever they go. It is a simple law of human nature that we love the highest. We want to be like such people, and we want to lead the kind of life they lead. ~Easwaran
I sometimes wonder from day to day how to be more like these people, the person that everyone is just drawn to the moment she walks into the door. They are like a ray of sunshine entering the room while others are like a gloomy cloud. I don’t know about you but I want to be like a light even if it’s just a little bitty ray to begin with. How do you know if you’re a cloud or ray of sunshine?
How do you know if you’re a gloomy cloud?
- Are you constantly thinking of yourself and what’s going on in your life?
- Do you wait for others to come talk to you?
- Do you complain about your life?
- Do you constantly talk about yourself?
- Are you judgmental and talk negatively of others?
How do you know if you’re a ray of sunshine?
- Do you think about others and how you can help make their life better?
- Are you friendly and welcome/greet others?
- Do you ask people about themselves?
- Are you truly interested in others?
- Are you genuinely happy with your life?
- Are you consistently building others up in your speech?
I can honestly say I’ve been struggling with being a light recently. In the past, I’ve been told my little family is like a light. DeMarco is a light. He’s always friendly, never complains, and in sincerely interested in the welfare of others (ex. helping his employees receive maximum bonuses in order to increase their quality of life. Recently, I haven’t felt that way about me). I’ve been focused on me. Getting myself through pharmacy school, making it through rotations, keeping my home running smoothly, worrying about blogging, finding a job, etc….. It’s been running through my mind, “How do I become more like a light?” How do I become someone who lives a life that others become just a little bit brighter themselves because they came in contact with me? I want to be that person. I want to make the world a better place and I know you want the same thing. I believe we become consumed with our everyday lives. We don’t mean to. We’re just trying to survive, to get everything done that needs to be. We work, take care of kids, cook, clean, take care of the yard, shop, etc… What extra time do we have? Here’s a few little steps I’ve thought of that we can use to shine just a little bit brighter in our busy lives.
- Smile and say hello to others when passing at work.
- Have a list of questions in mind to ask others about themselves? Not sure what to ask? Here’s a list to get you started.
- Hold the door open for someone else.
- Bring someone in your office their favorite coffee.
- Leave a note on your co-workers desk acknowledging your appreciation for them. Maybe they helped you out with something recently.
- Give a sincere compliment.
- Commit to stop complaining for a week.
- Take a moment to show affection to loved ones (hug, squeeze hand, pat on the back, kiss, etc…)
- Listen with interest and ask questions.
- Praise someone at work, school, home for a job well done.
- Send someone you know who is going through a rough time a card, flowers, candy, etc…
- Cheer up your loved one by giving them their favorite treat (chocolate, lottery ticket, movie ticket, etc…)
- Treat a friend or co-worker to lunch.
- Bring special treats to the office (I like healthy ones and I think others appreciate it as well. Ex. a nicely arrange bowl of kind bars).
- Always keep your word. Do what you say you’re going to do. Be where you say you’re going to be. People like these people.
- Overlook snappiness in others. In fact be kind to them. Kindness spreads and people like kind people.
- Be 100% you. Your light can only shine if you’re being you and others love an authentic you.
Seems simple, right? Choose one and practice it this week. I’m going to smile and say hello. I tend to divert my eyes from others so I don’t have to talk to anyone. What will you do? Leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from you.